Hey Spookies! Lately I've been thinking I could be a better friend. I'm absolutely guilty of waiting for people to contact me first, then being sad when they don't. I think this is a habit plenty of people have but I want to make an effort to break it.
I'm not ultra-confident and I find it all too easy to stay silent and not communicate with people in case I'm bothering them, or they think I'm irritating, or I have nothing to say and the conversation might turn awkward. Worse, sometimes I just don't reply when people do message me because I don't want to say the wrong thing or them to think I'm boring or wish they hadn't chatted to me. This is quite clearly counterproductive. Especially when I then wonder why I hardly ever hang out with anyone or talk to anyone.
I've decided I'm going to make a real effort to message people, to invite people to hang out, and to be a better friend. Logically, there's nothing to be afraid of. It makes no sense to not make an effort and then be worried when other people don't either. I think plenty of people feel the same and find talking first scary. So I'm going to be brave and do it. No more 'no replies' Kiah. I'm going to be a reformed character. Hopefully.